'I'm your husband's girlfriend': Woman Discovers Husband's Infidelity After His Side Piece Shows Up At Their Front Door With A Baby

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    r/ r/BestofRedditor Updates u/LucyAriaRose • 2d · I'm keeping the garlic . My common law husband is in Dubai and his side piece showed up at my door with their baby. Aitah for kicking her out even though she is basically homeless?
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    Original Post: June 2, 2024 My husband and I, 40f and 41m have been together for 10 years and I consider them years to be very loving and happy but apparently not for him since he had a side piece obviously. I make furniture and make around €1M a year. My husband is a teacher. It goes without saying that I provide for us. I don't ask what he does with his salary. We live way below our means however because we are both minimalists but we have a big house, nice cars and lots of art. Everything is
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    Apparently he met his side piece (f25) under false pretenses and told her that we were legally married so he owned 1/2 my company and everything else I own. When she got pregnant he started spending his salary on her (I wasn't alarmed because I didn't know what he did with his money). Now he is in Dubai on vacation and her lease on her apartment expired so she just showed up at my door with her baby. She told me she was his gf and that he was getting a divorce so she might as well live in his ho
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    My husband's mother thought I was an ah for kicking out a little baby on the street. That was her only grandson. I used and abused my money and power to control everything around me. But honestly, teachers make 60k a year so if as I found out later, he gave her his salary I can't understand why she would be so homeless and destitute? She had big designer bags, designer stroller and these Van Cleef & Arpels jewelry when she showed up to my home. But now I am the AH?
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    Relevant Comments: Commenter: If your mother in law is so concerned about the baby, she can take them in. OOP: She said she couldn't because she lives in a studio apartment.
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    Commenter: He can be homeless with her now. NTA. OOP: Absolutely. He wants to take an early plane home to explain. What is there to explain? He said she tricked him into getting pregnant. I know that hates children but How do you trick people into having children? So many questions and absolutely no desire for getting any answers. I feel only emptiness
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    Commenter: Can't be "tricked" into pregnancy if you're not sticking your thing where it doesn't belong. NTA OOP: Exactly! How do you get tricked into pregnancy if you don't cheat?
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    Commenter: If he didn't want children should have for a vasectomy. If you're interested in the explanation then sure get it but will it change anything. You don't really owe him anything as if your relationship was based on mutual respect and monogamy then he's broken it. OOP: He didn't want to lose his manhood. His literal reason
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    Commenter: He hates children and is a teacher? Or does he teach older humans? Obviously, you're NTA but as a former teacher who left the classroom because I started disliking the kids (it wasn't fair to them and my patience was about 97% gone), I'm curious. OOP: Yeah he teaches HS children. He always was set on being child free
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    Commenter: How long has his mother known she has has a grandchild? OOP: No idea. Wow never thought about this! I assumed she only knew after I called her. But probably she did already
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    Commenter: I hate that you think you could be an for this. OOP: Well I really hated the idea of a baby being homeless and I truly contemplated letting her be in the guest house but honestly I was terrified of her
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    Commenter: "minimalists" That word does not mean what you think it means. You are not minimalists. OOP: Haha sorry maybe it was the wrong word. I just meant I don't go on shopping sprees or have multiple walk in closets or travel once a week.
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    Commenter: I'm confused. If you're Common Law spouses, you will have "marital assets" and need a divorce. So, is the house your personal property or marital property? But you still don't have to let the OW in your home. And if it's s important to MIL, she can let them live with her. OOP: We have no marital assets and it was clear from the start when we moved in together that we have separate economy. We are not from the states and my assets are well protected
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    Commenter: Okay. You may not be aware that in the US, "Common Law" is a legal term for a couple who never signed a marriage certificate but are legally married due to living together for several years and presenting themselves as married. | OOP: Same definition here, different rules
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    Commenter: How long has your partner been in Dubai? Depending on the length of his stay, he may not even legally have residency in your home anymore. If legal, I'd change the locks now. OOP: He's there for 10 days (Second comment): One week left. It was the end of school kind of thing. I am going to gather all his things and send him to his mother. What is left are my things: he has no right to that And things we bought while living together: 50/50 no matter who payed. All gifts no matter how ex
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    Commenter: I gotta ask. How do you make $1M making furniture? Also NTA. Kick out the hubby too OOP: Long story short, I started as an interior decorator/designer and I started designing what the market lacked in my opinion. Now It is gotten bigger. More details and you could find me so
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    Update Post: June 9, 2024 (1 week later) Many are asking for an update but what's really there to update, here is what's happened this past week and what is going to happen. I will never see him again. It is over. He is back from his trip, probably he wasn't expecting to start his summer vacation this way. My lawyer has already contacted him about what he's owed. It will be transported to his mother's apartment. Whatever more he thinks he is owed he can sue me and I will be ready and I hope he c
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    Apparently the apartment that his gf lost was his. He was sending her money for the rent but she spent it on Prada instead. He swears that the baby isn't his and that he is "going to demand a paternity test" like it would make any difference? Maybe for the baby yeah, I hope to god that the child isn't his however so maybe there is still a small chance for that baby to have a better future and more loving parents. I am moving in with my parents. Right now I am in a hotel but I have no desire to b
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    The gf has contacted me a few times via social media because she needs to talk. She wants proof that we aren't married because he told her that we are married. I don't do delusion so I just blocked her. She has tried to contact me via her friends and mine so now everyone knows the truth without me needing to make an announcement (thank you gf!) Not sure what more to update, if I have missed anything I will leave it in the comments. One last thing. I am sorry for maybe using the wrong terms I am
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    However anything we purchased during the time we were living together falls under "joint estate" and is divided equally no matter who the purchaser is. I have no problems dividing these assets in half. I have bought our house and some of my expensive art during the time we have been partners, it would have been joint assets if we didn't have "cohabitation agreements" in place around these expensive purchases. He has no rights to them. Unlike prenups etc they are not as easy to contest because he
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    Under different circumstances I would probably have given him more than what he is going to get now because I am like that in general. If he had ended things. If he told me he wanted out and that he didn't love me anymore. Because I know that relationships end and people fall out of love. He could have respected me enough to give me that at least but he didn't. So I will literally be counting spoons and napkins and he will not get a dime over what he is owed.
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    Relevant Comments: Commenter: I'm glad gf made your job easier by telling everyone. For a second I couldn't figure out why she wanted you to prove that you were married which (lol) but then I reread your original post and realized that it's because she's expecting 1/2 of everything. Has his mother said anything else to you? How was it when STBex returned? OOP: Honestly I dont hold no hard feelings towards his mother. I have a mother myself and I have seen her happiness when my brother became a f
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    She hasn't contacted me and I don't want her to. She will probably tell my ex partner I told you so about hin not popping the question. I would never have wanted a legal binding paper to anyone but when I was younger and still didn't have my business I would probably have said yes and gladly so because I wanted so much for him to ask me. I would have been singing to a different tune right now. It is these thoughts that makes it easier for me to cope now. It could have been much worse and sometim
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    Commenter: What has your family said about all of this? I hope you have brothers to threaten his when he keeps trying to get a hold of you. OOP: My family is as shocked as I am. I think we all need some time for this to sink in and I start the grieving process
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    Commenter: Tell us about his pleading, and groveling. I want to hear about his suffering lol I'm second had furious for you OP you sound so cool and level headed and that dummy blew it big time!! OOP: He has been pathetic and trickle truthing like anyone like him does. It was a one time thing and she tricked him into having a baby, the baby is not his and he can prove it. She's just a friend who he helped housing but she turned on him. My last text from me personally was to grow up and act like
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    Commenter: I hope you get a full physical and STD panel run soon. Who knows what he has exposed you to? His baby mama is the one you know about; there could be others. OOP: Did my first tests the day after I found out. I will be doing it again in a month too. It was all good
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    Staceyrt. 2d built an art room for my bro "I don't do delusion so I just blocked her" love this woman... OP is hurt but she will be fine. ← ☑ Reply 3.3k Rosebush Raven • 1d We need this as a flair. And more people need to start following her shining example. ... 251
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    gotthesevens • 2d He didn't want to lose his manhood. Does he think they'll cut his d off or smth? lol so dumb. thank god oop wasnt married to this dumb trash Reply 1.4k
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    Abstruse • 2d No my Bot won't you! "Show me proof that you're not married!" Send a bunch of completely white or black JPGs. "Here's my lack of a marriage certificate. This is the wedding that didn't happen. Here's us not at the altar not exchanging vows. Aww, this is the cute moment where he didn't try to mash cake in my face and I didn't judo flip him into the meatballs..." Reply 609
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    SnooWords4839 • 2d Ex's GF thought she had a golden goose; she and ex are getting what both deserve. He was saying he was married, so he couldn't marry her. arbitrosse 1d • Reply 426 Not the Grim-ussy! I wonder what else he was saying that this stranger walked in an unpacked baby clothes. 123
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    AcanthocephalaOk4775 • 2d One of the most amusing genres of cheaters there is to me are the broke losers who want to come across like Big Men (I'm aware not only men fit this archetype but, from my experience, it's typically men) rolling in wealth to their gold digging side pieces. I love when the affair gets discovered and the other woman finds out that he's not nearly as wealthy as he was letting on and the wealth actually came from his wife. It makes me laugh every time. This actually reminds
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    Sherlock Scones3 • 2d I love stories where the gold digger discovers they've mined Pyrite. Reply 141
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    Suelswalker • 1d I do enjoy the cut and dry laws regarding assets wherever this person hails from. I wish we had more consistent and clear cut rules so emotions cannot cloud how they treat the other when it is time to split outside of being more generous than the rules that are already pretty fair from the sound of it. He would have gotten more had he not already signed agreements that say he accepts that he will not get them like the house and certain art pieces. Reply û 8 ♡
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    ATGF.2d OP sounds awesome and I want to be her friend! I'm so sorry this is happening to her, but I'm glad she's not getting screwed over (anymore). I'm glad she'll have more powerful lawyers than he will. I hope when this is all over she can find peace and happiness (and an even cooler home in which to fill with even happier memories). ... Reply 32
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    chonkosaurusrexx. 1d In regards to that one comment, and as a child free former teacher with friends in the same boat, I promise that we can not want kids of our own, and still work our off to be amazing, empathetic, caring and enthusiastic teachers that genuinely care for the kids and teens we see almost every day. This guy might have been like that, but not wanting kids of your own rarely equates to hating kids and teens. I loved teaching, loved getting to see them have that lightbulb moment w

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